The way I like to work to co-create a beautiful and meaningful wedding ceremony with you is to begin by meeting each other and getting acquainted. I like to hear your stories – who you are individually, and who you are as a couple. How did you meet? Tell me the story of your being together. Then I’ll give you some resource materials to consider: readings, ritual, poetry. You can decide together what you like, what speaks to you. What elements from your lives and libraries and music collections do you want to include? We might have some email correspondence about all of that. Then we’ll meet again to create the ceremony together and work out details.
When preparing to do a memorial service, I start by meeting with those close to the loved one who has passed over, to hear about his or her life, look at pictures, to find out what music, poetry, other writings were special to the loved one. The ceremony crafted will be fitted to his/her life and culture and beliefs. For me it's important to set a tone in a memorial service that allows everyone present to honor whatever they are feeling - to laugh, to cry, to remember, and to share those feelings and memories if they wish. It's important to acknowledge and make a space for the grief, the love, the unfinished, the completed, and to give whatever comfort is possible to those present.
Other Rites of Passage
Life is full of times of passages from one state to another, and it is good to mark those passages with ceremony and ritual. You can call on me when there are houses to be purified or blessed, babies to be welcomed, goodbyes to be said (moving, divorcing, retirement, young ones leaving the nest - all kinds of endings), passages to be celebrated, such as menarche (a girl’s passage into womanhood), embarking on a new work – whatever feels important and meaningful and worth celebrating. We’ll create the ceremony together, much in the spirit of creating weddings and/or memorial services.
You can contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org or 575-574-7805.