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Just say NO!!!! But HOW??
.....Refusal Skills!




Ask Questions

"What are we going to do?"
"Are your parents home?"
"Where are we going?"

Say NO and Name the Trouble

"NO! That's ______________"
    "NO, that's shoplifting!"
    "NO, that's illegal!"
    "NO, my parents won't allow me to__________."
    "NO, that's vandalism!



Identify the Consequences

"I would get grounded!"
"We could be fined or worse!" Other consequences...
  • legal/law
  • family/parents
  • school/teachers/principal
  • emotions/guilt
  • health/safety
  • Actions always have consequences!!!



    Suggest an Alternative

    "Instead why don't we ___________"
  • shoot hoops
  • go to the mall
  • go eat
  • rent a movie
  • surf the net


    If the pressure continues:

      Say the persons name
      Look them in them in the eye
      Say, "Listen to me!"
      Pause for effect
      Continue to use Refusal Skills



    Move it, Sell it, Leave the Door Open!

    "OK, but I'm going to ____________"
  • Start to move toward your idea
  • Sell your idea: "Come on it'll be fun!"
  • Leave with the possibility of them going with you.

  • Please call (505) 526-6242 for further information.